Job Search Rejection
As we roll into a broader down turn. I have noticed a familiar behavior rearing it's dysfunctional head. Avoidance behavior in the face of having to do a job search. But it is cureable and it's not contagious.
Looking for new work tends to be more dreaded and avoided than visiting the dentist because it inevitably means a certain amount of rejection, and disappointment. Many professionals take the easiest most passive route and post their resumes online because being ignored is somewhat less an affront then outright rejection.
The newest type of job search rejection is now due to social networking. It happens when you make a request in Linkedin.com using a string of so-called "trusted" connections and you hear nothing back. Nada, zilch. Just like sending in a resume to a cool job you think you are perfect for and you hear nothing back but worse. Because it's totally personal in social networking. It's not some nameless recruiter you don't hear back from. Ouch!
Not to belabor the point but typically we try to avoid pain and seek out pleasure or least we seek a lessor amount of pain. This is why people stay in crummy jobs long after they stopped doing them any good because doing a never-ending job search filled with rejections would be far worse. How do you avoid the discomfort of disappointment in a job search? Well, you don't but you can mitigate it....a lot.
I have seen professionals form Success Teams where they meet weekly to offer feedback, support and comfort while looking for a new position. The beauty of the group process is there is always at least one person who is up rather than down to help bouy your spirits.
Other people can give you perspective that you don't have being too close to the situation. And there's always the old adage that misery loves company. At least there are other people that understand what you are going through because they are in it too.
Another option is a simple self-talk system that reinforces a positive outlook regardless of negative input from the world. Write out a list of your top career strengths, best business accomplishments, and most superlative attributes in the workplace.
Post your list to the bathroom mirror and refrigerator, two places we always know to look, and so will read them frequently during the day. This personal moral support system helps lessen the sting of rejection. The bonus is that you are committing to memory valuable self-branding sound bites that will come in handy to use when you do get that interview.
Finally there is the most challenging, difficult but most successful solution: find companies that want to hire you and only apply to them. Think about it. Ultimately this is exactly what happens, so why not expedite the process and only seek them out?
Somebody famous said something to the effect that nobody can make you feel bad about yourself unless you agree to it. Rejection works that way. Just because an employer choose on another candidate and not you is not a personal rejection unless you take it as such.



